As I have mentioned, change is nerve racking, but when you have superhero parents like mine you start to see what dreams are worth it who to talk to when yore feeling discouraged. Maybe you’ve never been as unsure of yourself as I used to be in some cases, but you can likely relate to that feeling of wanting to do something but feeling horrified to start. This not only hinders your potential in life; it also minimizes your ability to make a positive impact on the world around you.
Some many aspects go into overcoming a fear. Maybe you’re conditioned to a thought from years ago or take yourself out of a situation where all you hear is “you can’t” One thing that will definitely help is working on your confidence.
So. Here comes the wise words from D&W.
1. Remember you were born with confidence
You were born into the world and you were not scared of your loud cry or wet, grey, soggy skin. You came out zealously unaware of external judgment. Now, by no means am I say to ignore other people, but it may help to remember confidence was your original nature before life and time over the years started chiseling away at it. When you start feeling unsure of yourself remember that everyone on this earth was born with confidence, and we can all get it back if we learn to silence the thoughts and unkind words from others that threaten our self esteem.
2. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.
Learning who you are as a person doesn’t happen in the blink of an eye. It might help to list five things you do well that you enjoy and five things you’d like to do well. It is important to make an effort to bestow some of the first list and work on some of the second every day.
3. Expect and demand success.
Confidence and success go hand in hand; its the slippery slope fallacy. It might seem odd to say expect and demand success since we know know what the next day holds, but we worry about the unknown and think something bad will happen, so it not that the same idea? Pessimism can undermine your performance and hurt you. For every bad thought just stop, take three deep breaths and face the fact that you got this.
4. Trust your gut.
If someone criticizes you, take it as an avenue to improve. If someone is doing a bit better than you, make it opportunity to learn from them. If you fall short at something, realize you can get closer next time. Don’t worry if you’re not confident in what you can do now—be confident in your potential. It is not about feeling like you know everything, but more of thinking and believing you can handle anything that pops up.
5. Embrace the unknown and Take risks.
Even confident people lose jobs, relationships, and sometimes, their health; no one knows the future, but that is okay!
Confidence comes from knowing yourself, but when you take that weight off your shoulders and realize that sometimes the twists and turns have nothing to do with what you did or should have done, it’s easier to feel confident in what you bring to the table.
Taking a compliment is an art. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice to make you feel better.
Remember, for the most part you earn the praise you receive. Don’t talk yourself out of believing it. Instead, turn it into your confidence and remember you can do it again!
Go out and conquer today. Thanks mom and dad for everything. Id be lost without you both!
Dayna Daily 